Friday, August 10, 2007

Friday Five Stress Busting Edition

Sally writes: I am off to spend a few days at the beach chilling out after a hectic few weeks and before I head off for Summer School...So with that in mind this weeks questions are looking at how you deal with the stress monster!!!???

1. First, and before we start busting stress, what causes you the most stress, is it big things or the small stuff ? right now it's definitely the big stuff - graduation from seminary, family health issues, friends moving away, counseling for myself and other things I'm not willing to mention here... admittedly, when things pile up though, even the little things can become bigger than they need to be

2. Exercise or chocolate for stress busting ( or maybe something else) ? I wish it was exercise, but it's usually chocolate, particularly in the brownie or ice cream form... sadly this is one of the reasons that I am so overweight which only adds to the stress in the form of physical problems (I have degenerative disc disease in my lower back and my weight exacerbates the condition making it painful to sit/stand/walk for very long). One of the reasons I'm currently in counseling is to try to get to the heart of my emotional eating. One day I hope to bust my stress by going for a jog, or at least a long walk!

3.What is your favourite music to chill out to? Enya is always a favorite for relaxing, but it could be lots of differen things depending on my mood and the particular song. I've made several cd's of "chill out" music that include things by Sarah McLachlan, Indigo Girls, KT Tunstall, Depeche Mode (one of my high school faves), Alanis Morisette, etc. I also enjoy just turning on the classical music station on the radio to just listen without focusing on words.

4. Where do you go to chill? A lot of different places - sometimes it's just vegging in front of the tv (which isn't so much relaxing as it's diverting), others it's hiking in the woods, walking around the duck pond and beautiful grounds at a local park or people watching somewhere like a mall. I think what works better is determined by the cause of the stress in the first place.

5. Extrovert or introvert, do you relax at a party, or do you prefer a solitary walk? I'm definitely more of an extrovert but still have those times when I just need to be alone. I generally find parties energizing rather than relaxing, but like to take time alone to journal, listen to music, or meditate to relax and rejuvenate myself.

Bonus- share your favourite stress busting tip! I don't know if it's really a tip, but in general I find that perspective is everything - so when you're stressed out about something it helps to talk about it with someone you trust and get their perspective on it. Sometimes it's not as big a deal as it first seemed after sharing it with someone else, or perhaps they can offer some advice that makes it easier to deal with. Community and caring for each other always helps!


"PS" said...

Congratulations on graduation from seminary. Any ideas where the Spirit is calling you?

Big Unit said...

Good post. Sorry to hear you have so many stress'. I deal w/ mine totally inappropriately; eat, sleep, watch tv, alone.

hipchickmamma said...

great play ms mandyc!

your playlist sounds pretty fab--loreena mckennet is great too!

Deb said...

Yeah. Love Sarah's music. And Alanis. The more of these blogs I read, the more ideas for my playlists! :)


Kim in KCK said...

Great play, Mandy. Best wishes on the house.


"PS" said...

That next step in the journey...always seems to be in play. And the waiting...well, let's just say, "I don't wait well." There are some things I can just go with the flow, but the future as far as geographical location, call, etc I'd like to have a little clarity on.

Blessings as you continue to discern the Spirit's leading.

Leah Sophia said...

Congrats on seminary graduation!!!!! I also love your music choices; Be Blessed!

Anonymous said...

Regarding friends moving away...

Something I've learned lately that helps me is this: When something of value becomes farther away, we are tempted to be sad, which is OK. But we also tend to feel a sense of loss, a vague dissonance that almost devalues the whole experience. We tend not to see the value in being sad. Being sad that your friens move away very much validates how you feel about them. It reminds you of what true and good friends they are.

The sadness at the end of an experience (like the bottom of a bucket of ice cream) is just like the exclamation point at the end of a joyous sentence. It certainly does not negate the sentence, it accentuates it.

For some reason, that helps me deal with loss of favorite things like great neighbors or friends who move away or the end of a great event.